Comments on: First Comes Love?

By: CreoleInDC

CreoleInDC — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 15:32:58 +0000

Love and marriage HAVE to go together.

That is all.

By: SoJo

SoJo — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:17:52 +0000

If you don’t love each other, you’ll struggle to survive through the hard times of marriage. That’s what I believe and I’m sticking to it!

That’s the part that I believe too. I mean, business/contract/obligation aside, I feel like if I’m in a marriage I want to be able to draw upon the emotional well that he and I share through our most difficult times. I guess the key is to have a partner who also shares that belief!

By: Diva (in Demand)

Diva (in Demand) — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 22:46:29 +0000

I’ll admit up front that I decided what my answer was going to be before I read any of the comments. Some of them were very insightful to me. Like this one:

“Love is the seed AND the blossom AND the fruits falls comes from the blossom. So people marry others at various stages of love: some folks want to eat a couple pound sof the fruit before marrying, while other just need the seed to marry. It’s a personal decision.”

That was interesting to me.

As for love and marriage coming together…I think there has to be true love for the marriage to work. If you don’t love each other, you’ll struggle to survive through the hard times of marriage. That’s what I believe and I’m sticking to it!

By: SoJo

SoJo — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 18:16:02 +0000

It wasn’t just her either. It was the whole brood of them. I was the only single person and my mom (who is divorced and wouldn’t even dare speak like that). It was the ugliest thing that I’d ever seen and it threw me off because among them, you’re talking about 100′s of years of marriage in that room.

The experience helped me to understand my friend’s thought process in choosing her husband though – because I always wondered why she married a man that she barely tolerated.

And thank you for re-affirming that men don’t dog their wives that way. I was hoping that what I saw that day was completely out of the ordinary!

By: SoJo

SoJo — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:59:11 +0000

Exactly. I never thought about it being easier for two people who don’t love each other because it takes away the emotional vulnerability piece. One of the comments from yesterday separated TRUST from LOVE – which I had always believed went hand in hand, but looking at it from a business perspective I guess that you can trust your partner without loving your partner. On the other hand, you can’t really love your partner without trusting him/her so it’s a lot more work.

Yes, you’re right. I think that the reward is SOOOO much greater and worth waiting for.

You and I agree about conceiving children from a place of love, but now as I’m thinking on it – it makes me want to go back and look at some of the bible’s most powerful figures to see if biblical teachings encourages us conceive based on great love or familial obligation.