“I’ll be on your side forever more…
That’s what friends are for….”
This past year has taught me a lot about friendship. I’ve made some new friends, discarded old ones. Enriched existing acquaintences and reconstructed new ones.
The thing that I am learning is that I seriously need to work on being a better friend. I’ve spent a lot of time over the last few months selfishly analyzing what nourishes or drains me in my interactions with people.
But if I’m honest, that’s a reflection of my own friendship actions. I’m beginning to focus on whether or not I am expecting more than I’ve been giving to people. I’ve found myself several times over the last few months asking “why are they that way?” or “why don’t they do this?” and “don’t they realize that I need…” I think that I needed this selfish year in order to be able to focus on being more selfLESS for the next year.
March marked a year since I began this blog – morphed into Sojourner. I love that I’ve had time to focus within so that I can do a better job of reflecting it outwardly. Instead of asking the “me” questions, I want to move towards a direction that allows me to ask myself the same thing regarding their needs.
My New Day Resolution is take an honest, selfless look at the people in my life and evaluate my authenticity in my interactions with them.
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Dammit! I just took the time to write all ‘lat on my phone to post and my horoscope says that I need to cut out the dead branches on my friendship tree. LeSigh. #backtothefrienshipdrawingboard Lol!
I think cutting off the old branches will help you be a better friend for those that remain. Score for the blog-horoscope harmony! lol
I know, right?! I had to LOL because contemplating doing some friendship trimming was what prompted me to write that NDR.
I was trying to figure out if the problem was me. Then the universe steps in and says “CHOP! CHOP!” so that your other flowers don’t die. I love it!
Today, I just respond with, “I just love this.” I have spent the last few years focusing and refocusing on the idea of friendship. In fact, it used to be one of the very regular topics on my blog. I was infatuated with the idea of what a good friend should be and look like, and I began really looking at myself as a friend.” And, that time away is sometimes really needed. Today, I’m in one of those reflective modes – and this was just a really feel good one for me to read. Thanks a million.